Decade Marriage, Love of Life 十載婚姻一生的愛

October 18, 2007

While we were newly wed, first anniversary seemed a long way to go. But today we are celebrating our first decade of marriage. Ten years has swiftly passed in an eye blink.

I am not sure how other couples nourish happy marriages, but I certainly know you are an artist of our life. You can always find a way to praise me. You never forget to give me credits for what I've done well; you give me encouragement when I show improvement; you never complained when food doesn't come out the way it supposed to be, instead your words of 'As long as I can smell food when I step into the house, that's good enough.' gives me relieve. You even found a way to comfort my occasional laziness --- 'Food to eat without the mess of cooking, that's smart!'
You adore my beauty when I wear makeups; the charm of youth in your eyes when I am plain. I know I am far from a perfect wife, only through you I am complete. You have given me room to grow and space to fly!☺♡

You are also very intelligent. Man of wisdom does not keep his mind on 'little stuffs'. I understand what you mean by "Big decisions are up to me. She takes care of 'smaller' things. But no major issues come up lately." --- you have skillfully avoided numerous domestic conflicts. Masculinity is not only physical, you have a man's gentle spirit. Your dedication of authority has brought you a peace of mind. Just wonder where those growing grey hairs coming from?

With you by my side, I am safe and secure. Mom's best friend 呂阿姨 asked me long time ago "Do you have a sense of security when you are with him?" I knew she wasn't referring to financial security. I ensured her with a definite 'yes'. Do you know I love to travel with you (besides the preparation, aftermath unpacking and washing all done by me :) because you are my navigator who always know the best place to be? You are also my encyclopedia --- an answer to every question in the world. You sense of humor is seldom known to others. You have brought me laugh and joy.

After all, the most important thing is that I know because you love me!

Oops! Almost forget to say "Happy Anniversary! I love you!"
SJJ.PC

*The letter receiver's reaction: I never knew I am so good! Am I so perfect? Who's going to believe you?
None of us is perfect. And we don't know how to love. But our heavenly father has shown us how to love through His only son's sacrifice on the cross. "God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him."

1st Dental Visit

By knowing his personality, I've been talking about today's dental visit numerous times with him. Francine also ensured him it is fun and no hurting, and reminded him of the toothbrush and the goodies he could choose there. Everything was fine until we walked into the exam room. Maybe the chair was too weird? --- I forgot to tell him it would be a special 'flying banana' chair, just like last time I forgot to tell him we would be taking a bus to the airport and he refused to get on to the 'school bus'. Finally, he reluctantly agreed to sit on my lap in the 'banana'. Whoosh! It took two assistants and me to strap him down for a 3 minutes exam and cleaning. 'Oh boy, he is strong!' one of the assistants exclaimed. Well, nothing is new to me.
Praise the Lord that his teeth are all healthy and clean. And he agreed to be strong and courageous at next visit. Hallelujah!

Singleton

To my surprise, Carol and Jeff brought Enoch to John-John's birthday. I didn't invite her because it is quiet a distance for them coming from Stanten Island for someone who doesn't really enjoy driving. But I am so glad that they came since it was the first time for my kids to have a cousin on their birthday party. Thank you for traveling the 500 miles!
Carol also brought her sister-in-law's two kids. After my last set of friends left, Carol said "of course they fleet after seeing the full house of children!" Then I realized she might be mistaken as a mother of three! Carol insisted they can only handle one. As an only child myself, I can't see anything wrong to be a singleton. On the other hand, only child enjoys many privileges and attentions that others can never have. Put it this way, you can be either the only child or one of several, except for the firstborns but usually it is a few years of blurry memories during early childhood. Hence, you never be sure the life of 'what if I were the only child'.